Female led relationship

You are an Alpha or Bossy Woman and you are considering choosing a Female-Led Domestic Relationship for your relationship but you are still hesitating. Let me explain to you a few things. In a Female-led Domestic Relationship, you are not obliged to be a “Dominatrix in leather with a whip” or any other woman for your partner. The actual dynamics of the relationship are up to you. You are the one who makes the rules.

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Want to Try Bondage?

roughly 30 percent of American adults enjoy some spanking during sex. Another twenty percent have experimented with restraints, and 13 percent have found themselves engaging with whips and floggers. Other studies suggest even those who haven’t given such activities a shot yet have likely fantasizing about doing so.

These proclivities fall under the umbrella of BDSM, an acronym for bondage/discipline, domination/submission and sadism/masochism. The term refers to a variety of practices and procedures, all of which revolve around the idea of power and control. Like almost all things associated with sex, it exists on a spectrum. There are the varsity players that have come to embrace BDSM as a lifestyle. Whips and chains and other kinds of gear may very well be stationed within their wheelhouse. There are also the folks who simply like to dabble, and do without the accessories. And then, of course, there are the virgins.

Still, studies suggest even those who haven’t given yet BDSM a shot have likely fantasizing about doing so. Budding interests, however, don’t always translate into responsible execution. And, as BDSM contains a wide swath of bedroom activities from the tying of hands, light spanking, and the following of orders to erotic asphyxiation, hog tying, and more that range from modest to extreme, the world can be hard to navigate. So, if you’re interested in exploring BDSM sex, it’s a lot easier to walk through with a guide in hand. That’s why we spoke to a pair of experts about what those interested in dipping their toes into BDSM waters need to know: Dulcinea Pitagora, a psychotherapist and sex therapist who’s been a member of and mentor in the New York City’s BDSM community for Communication in and out of the bedroom is essential for any relationship. It’s even more so when it comes to experimenting with BDSM. “Having a strong practice of open communication in place is crucial to success in getting into discussions about kinky desires,” says Pitagora. Of course, diving right into explicit conversations concerning sex can be a little, well, intimidating. Her advice?  Couples need to start slow. Begin by talking about the non-sexual characteristics you appreciate about each other. Then, transition into the sexy stuff. That said, there are some bullet points couples must cover when exploring options. “You want to talk about things like negotiations, boundaries, and consent,” says Cross. The more specific you get in these areas, the better.

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Seek Expert Guidance

It’s always a good idea to do some research before embarking on any new endeavor. Don’t be afraid to rely on the existing literature out there. If you want to read up on BDSM practices, Pitagora suggests The New Topping Book, The New Bottoming Book, Playing Well with Others: Your Field Guide to Discovering, Exploring, and Navigating the Kink, Leather, and BDSM Communities, and Enjoy Sex: How, When, and If You Want To. Of course, you don’t have to limit yourself to text. Pitagora also encourages couples to look to ethical porn for some guidance. Some of her favorite studios include Crash Pad Series, Pink Label TV, and Foxhouse Films. Kinky Academy, an instructional studio designed to educate curious and consenting adults, is another of her preferred option. And if these don’t do it for you, well, there are still more options to consider. Cross reminds us that sex-positive stores like Babeland and the Pleasure Chest often host workshops to better educate customers on sexual culture. The best thing is to check out the schedule and see if there’s anything on BDSM coming up.

Accessorize at Home

The Internet can introduce you to a lot of things. Like $100 paddles or $250 handcuffs. But these aren’t necessary purchases, especially for BDSM beginners.  Cross reminds us that you can find a lot of stuff to accessorize with around the house. Stockings can be used to tie someone up. Ribbon can be used as a blindfold. And if you do end up having to make a purchase or two, they don’t have to break the bank. “The rope I have in my studio is from Home Depot,” admits Cross. In other words? Keep it simple.

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Never Stop Communicating

Just because you had an initial conversation surrounding your exploration into BDSM doesn’t mean you’re done talking about it. Communication is something that should be actively employed before, during, and after any BDSM activity. “Do check-ins. Make sure consent is enthusiastic,” says Cross. “Make it a point to only go as fast as the slowest person.” Pitagora suggests partners also come up with a safe word, which she defines as a “phrase, word, or physical signal that stops the scene immediately, for any reason.”

Know Your Limits

Just because you agreed to something doesn’t mean you have to see if through until the end. “Explicit, enthusiastic consent to proceed should be consistently and frequently built into communication,” says Pitagora. “Partners also need to verbally reassure each other that rescinding consent will always be okay, no matter what.”

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It’s also a good idea to stay away from more advanced forms of BDSM, especially when starting out as a beginner. “There are two things I tell people they absolutely should not try,” Cross explains. “Do not engage in any heavy breath play — don’t try to restrict someone’s air way. And don’t tie someone up and then leave them alone. This is absolutely how someone will get hurt,” she says.

Always Practice Aftercare

So maybe the sex and the scene have come to an end. But there’s still work to be done. In BDSM, “aftercare” refers to the affection and attention exchanged between partners following any form of play. If you have specific requests regarding what this might look like, well, that’s something you should probably discuss before things even get started. This is also a good time to talk about the scene. “Go back to step one and communicate about what worked and what didn’t, and what you both might want to try next time,” says Pitagora.

How to Femdom your man?

I unlock my Slave Selection boy toy from his chastity cage at least once a day, to play with him and give him a wonderful raging hardon. I need to KEEP him “finely tuned” as well as remind him daily – who is in charge. Well Last Night after sadistically teasing and edging him for well over an hour (watching TV in bed), I decided it was time to let him cum – he had been so wonderfully obedient, devotional and venerating towards me for the last two or three weeks. I had never tried it before, but I had him get almost upside down for me, so I could make him ejaculate and Cum right into his own mouth. He was very hesitant at first, but he knows better than question – anything I ask him to do… It was a little awkward for him, as he’s not exactly a small guy, but rather quite the muscular virile male – but once he was in position, I started fucking his sexy vulnerable ass slowly with my  previously prepared lubed up  chrome Butt Plug – while deftly milking my Stud Muffins Magnificent 8″ Cock of Curved Perfection at the same time… I had never before used my dildo type Butt Plug on him like this and he was completely shocked and surprised (he’s such a manly man)… After a few superb extraordinarily close edgings, I finally took him OVER the edge and I Made Him Cum. His mouth was wide open as I instructed, maybe because I was making his Long Anticipated (Cherished) Climax feel so Unbelievably Good… Nevertheless His Miraculous Manhood suddenly strained impossibly harder in my hand and a moment later, a Huge Streaming Load of his  Ejaculate  shot with astonishing force into his wide open mouth and hit the back of his throat. 

It had been a long time since I had “allowed” him to Cum and I had  edged him  daily, for two or three weeks, so his first explosive eruption was a whole lot of cum…  His second squirt torpedoed again (instantly) squarely into his mouth but his third pressurized load – some landed on his face and beard. His mouth quickly filled as he continued spurting and erupting in rapid succession – and as he continually tried to swallow (as I instructed him to) – he began to choke on the sheer volume of pudding filling his mouth. He eventually swallowed it  ALL  which made me so very dominant  and happy  that he was obediently recycling his own healthy testosterone as I Commanded…  He had never CUM so hard or so much before for me, I guess the dildo up his sexy virgin ass, massaging his prostate made all the difference… His Rock Hard  Monster  Pulsing in my hand, felt harder than ever, as I leaned over and down to him and licked the remaining beads of salty sweet cum from his face and beard and then fed it to him in a final kiss..  I then allowed and encouraged him to get up and lay upon the bed with the Butt Plug still buried in his adorable ass.

Femdom in control

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Now I had him exactly where I wanted him, naked and tied to my bed, at my mercy. Total Femdom Control.

I leaned over, tightening one of the knots, checking to make sure he couldn’t wiggle out of them. It wasn’t done to have your pet escape before you were done playing.

Once I was sure he was as secure as possible I stepped back, smiling to myself as his eyes tracked my every move. I had refused to remove my clothes while he was free to move. I wasn’t going to let him touch me without my say so.

I slowly began to strip out of my clothes. I slowly slid my hands down to the hem of my top, playing my fingers down my sides before gripping the bottom and lifting it over my head, throwing it aside. My jeans went next, unzipping before slowly simmering them over my hips, letting them drop to the floor, I stepped out of them, kicking them aside. Standing in nothing but my bra and little thong panties.

I had been thinking about this all day, planning what I was going to do to him, the thoughts running through my head getting me hotter and hotter, wetter and wetter as the plan formed in my mind.

I sat down beside him, ready to show him just how hot he made me. I toyed with my nipples through the thin lace of my bra, knowing he could see just how erect they had become. I pulled on them, giving them a gentle pinch.

I ran my fingertips down my stomach and down to my pantie covered mound.

 

 

I played my fingers around, my breath hitching in my throat at the spike of pleasure that just that small touch provoked. I couldn’t wait. I was so turned on, so horny that I could already feel an orgasm building.

I looked at him, watching the way he licked his lips as his eyes followed my every movement. He opened his mouth like he was about to talk but I silenced him with a look. He wasn’t allowed to talk without my say so. But that gave me an idea.

I ran my fingers up and down my pussy, feeling my juices soak through the material of my underwear. I pushed at my entrance, my fingers tenting the material, pushing inside. The sensation was so different, but a good different, the material soaking up all my wetness, the texture scraping at my inner walls as I began to thrust my fingers in and out, forcing the thongs crotch deeper, the string sides cutting into my flesh, but that just added even more sensation to the experience.

The material had slid down so far that most of my upper mound was exposed to his eyes, leaving my clothes free to play. I circled my thumb against the hard little bud. A jolt of pleasure made me gasp, feeling so good that I did it again, rubbing with my thumb as I curled my fingers up inside my pussy, finding that spot inside that felt so good.

I knew I wouldn’t last long, the combination of my fingers stroking and curling inside and my thumb working my clit. Soon I was panting, feeling the orgasm swell and grown inside. I glanced down at his crotch, very happy to see his cock swollen to full attention, weeping from the tip. He was enjoying it as much as I was.

Our True Femdom Marriage Life

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 I fell in love and married Julie, my beautiful wife who is now 31, and who is beautiful and charming in every way. She has a very sexy body, great legs, and long reddish-brown hair. Our sex life has always been good as Julie is very passionate. After a year of marriage, I rekindled my intense fascination with chastity belts. The idea of being locked up sexually was always very exciting to me. Even when I was younger, I would take a short cardboard tube, put it over my penis and wear it under my underwear. I absolutely loved the feeling of being “trapped.” My wife was never previously interested in chastity belts and though I was perverted. Nonetheless, I bought myself a high-quality stainless steel belt. I liked to wear it as I enjoyed having my organ “confined” in the steel tube with only the head of my penis sticking out at the end. For it to work, my penis is inserted into a hollow steel tube that bends downward. The tube then locks to the cuff ring around the base of my genitals. It gives me a comfortable but very secure fit for long term wear. Once locked in, it is impossible for me to escape from it or have an erection or orgasm. Julie would always laugh whenever she saw me wear it around the house, and say I look sexy in it.

I love my wife very much and it was important for me to have her hold the key. Wearing a chastity belt is much more fun when your lover has total control of your chastity. After some begging on my part, she finally agreed. After being locked up for a couple of days, Julie could see how horny I would become. She liked the change as to my willingness to please her and “earn” my orgasms. I enjoy the “frustration” of being kept chase and then being allowed to cum after great anticipation.

I also enjoy being teased by Julie. She is great at doing a striptease and wiggling her sexy ass in front of me, which drives me absolutely wild! Many times, she would keep me locked up for several days, which would cause me to go crazy with lust. Julie did, a couple of occasions, offer to end the fantasy, but I always begged her to continue, as I love being at her mercy sexually. I know it sounds strange, but I feel “naked” without my chastity belt and I much prefer to wear it!

After about six months of chastity play, my wife started meeting other women who had chastity belted husbands of their own. Julie was amazed at how many men like chastity control! She enjoyed hearing how the other women keep their husbands in line sexually, and how much pleasure the couples would receive (and freedom for the wives) when the husbands are kept chaste. Without going into detail, there were reportedly some very kinky things going on! Now I know that this isn’t a lifestyle for everybody, it is defiantly the lifestyle for me, and I want to do it with Julie as the gatekeeper of my penis! Julie gave me one last time to call it off, but I begged her to be my Mistress and to never stop the fantasy. I also reminded her that there was no way I could ever cheat on her being locked up!

I shivered with excitement as she locked me up. After everything was locked, she grabbed the tip of my penis and said: “this belongs to me now!” When Julie came home the next day, she presented me with a strap-on dildo. It was 8″ inches long and was much longer and plumper than my 5″ penis when fully erect. After I removed my clothes, she snapped it on over my chastity belt. The snap-on dildo endowed me with a very impressive artificial hard-on. Once she undressed, Julie told me to make love to her. After I climbed on top of her, Julie moaned as I lowered my artificial cock into her hot slit. She moaned louder as she took in all 8″ of it. It was just like real lovemaking, except my real penis, was safely locked away in the bent tube. I had no trouble bring my kinky wife to orgasm. I made love to her several more times with my artificial penis. It would drive me, wild making love, to Julie while my own penis remaining chaste. I cannot begin to describe the kinky tension having to screw my beautiful wife with a fake cock. Julie, in turn, said it felt better inside her than my real cock!

Femdom Marriage

I have been married to my wonderful husband for twenty-five years. We were married when I was twenty-five and he was twenty-six, so I’ll let you do the math on how old we are. In our twenty-five-year-old marriage, my husband has been cuckolded now for fifteen years. We have been living a 

cuckoldry marriage

 now longer than we lived a traditional marriage.

The first six years of our marriage were very traditional and very vanilla. We were the perfect couple, we did everything together and we had great sex. About year six, we became involved in D&s. That is a long story in itself and I will not go into that here due to time. We were both switches for the first two years of our D&s life, as we rotated between being the Dom and the sub. About year eight of our marriage, we both came to the mutual realization and decision that I was a natural Dom and he was a natural sub. I have embraced my true and natural DominantPersona and my husband has embraced his true and natural submissive Persona for the past 17 years.

Like most Dominant Women, once I discovered and embraced my dominant nature, there was no going back and I ran with it. These past 17 years have been the best of my life, especially in the area of my sexuality. Only a Dominant Woman who discovers and unleashes her dominant energy is capable of experiencing sex on this higher plain. I use to think I had good orgasms but once I discovered female domination and female supremacy, sex and orgasms moved into a whole new world of intensity and pleasure.

That brings me to the topic of cuckolding. Cuckolding is like dynamite if used properly, it is a very powerful tool but if used incorrectly, it will blow your handoff. I have talked with and counseled a number of women over the years who really screwed up their lives and marriages because of cuckolding.

 

Cuckold Marriage

But as I would listen to the stories of unwanted pregnancies, venereal disease, and broken homes I wanted to scream out “You foolish girl, you have no one to blame but yourself”. You don’t hold a piece of dynamite with a lit fuse and expect not to be hurt. 

There are two absolutes I have learned

 about women. One, all women are superior to men. And two, not all women are equal in intelligence and common sense. You don’t sleep with strange men and you always use a condom. Period, no exceptions. The safe sex rules of cuckolding are no different than the safe sex rules of dating for singles. It’s a dangerous world out there so keep your wits about you and always use sound judgment and good old common sense.

A selfish Bitch

Why cuckolding? The politically correct things to say within the cuckolding world are “I only cuckold my husband because I want to drive him into deeper submission to me” or “I only cuckold my husband because he enjoys it as well. If he didn’t enjoy it than I wouldn’t do it to him.” Both of these commonly used statements are correct and that should be a part of the process but I also cuckold my husband because I am a selfish bitch. 

I enjoy having sex with another man (and occasionally another woman) while I sexually deny and humiliate my husband

. There, I admitted it. I like to date other men. I like the whole process from start to finish. I love my husband and I include him in on the cuckolding because I want him to be humiliated, I want to drive him into deeper submission to me, and I feel it is his husbandly duty in a Female Supremacist Marriage. Cuckolding is an important part of who I am, what I believe and what I am all about. It is not just a D&s game or activity but it is a declaration and a lifestyle.

As I said, I love the whole process. I love flirting with an attractive man. I love asking a man out on a date. I love teasing my husband about it. I love making my husband prepare me for my dates. I love going on the date. I love meeting and experiencing a new man. I love the first kiss, the first touch, the fondling, the passion, and yes, 

I LOVE the sex

. I love the tormenting and humiliating my husband during and after the sex. I love the power I feel and I love what it does to me as a Dominant Woman. And above all, I love what it does to my husband as a submissive man. You don’t know control and power over a man until you have cuckolded him, especially if you incorporate orgasm denial along with the cuckolding.

 

the husband denial process

Let me discuss the denial process and the importance of it as it relates to cuckolding. The whole cuckolding process is about Female liberation and male acceptance to the superiority of women. It is about a total and complete power exchange from the submissive husband to the superior wife. It is about humiliating the husband for the wife’s sexual pleasure.

What cuckolding is not about is swinging or orgies. I may on rare occurrences allow my husband to serve me or even service me in some manner while my lover is having sex with me, but that is because it will further my pleasure and that is what I am in the mood for that night. However, my husband is never allowed to orgasm in the presence of my lover. My husband exists to serve me. He does not exist for his own selfish pleasure. It is all about my pleasure and my pleasure is enhanced by my knowledge that my husband is aroused, frustrated and denied.

As a female supremacist, I do not believe in the male orgasm and I do not sanction the male orgasm. I only allow my lover to orgasm because I know that it will add to my husband’s humiliation. The same goes for intercourse. My husband is not permitted intercourse with me but I allow my lover the right to intercourse only because I know it will add to my husband’s humiliation and shame. For some women, the same can be said for sucking a man’s penis. Most female supremacists will never do that disgusting act to any man for any reason. But there are some women who on very rare occasions will make an exception and do it to their lover because they want to add to their husband’s humiliation and frustration.

How often and for how long do I deny my husband? For the past fifteen years, my husband has had zero orgasms through intercourse. I allow my husband to enter me with his penis two or three times a year only because I don’t want him to ever forget the pleasure that he is missing the other 362 days of the year. On those few days that I allow him to enter me, I am always on top and he is not permitted to move a muscle. I may just hold still to allow him to feel my warmth or I may even give him a few humps just to remind him what he is missing. But after a few very brief minutes, I pull off of him and back into frustration he goes. Also, the entire time I allow him to be inside of me, I am softly whispering to him to tease him about how my lovers are permitted this pleasure all the time but he will never be permitted to orgasm inside of me again.  As I said, I only allow my husband these brief encounters two or three times a year and only so he doesn’t forget what he is missing when I am with my lover. It adds to the mind games and mental domination.

 

milking or humiliation?

Besides being denied intercourse with me, my husband is denied any type of orgasm most of the time. I tried to permanently deny my husband but we didn’t quite make it. He could go about a month to six weeks but then he would have a wet dream or an accidental climax during our D&s sessions. Even if he was in a chastity device, he would on occasion orgasm when I was taking him with my strap-on. So, I decided that instead of wasting my valuable time in figuring out how to prevent this or going through the exhausting effort of giving him prostate milkings, I decided it was easier and more enjoyable to allow him one or two very humiliating orgasms per month. I talked this over with a few women and the consensus is that if a man’s orgasm is permitted in a non-intimate and degrading way, that it still qualifies as a permanent denial. What’s the difference if he has it through a milking or via humiliation? Therefore, my husband only receives one or two supervised and very degrading orgasms per month. I enjoy this as a female supremacist because his rare orgasms become very entertaining for me. My favorite is to make him hump an inanimate object before another woman while I verbally degrade him. He will hump the floor, or a chair, or the bed, or the boots I am wearing, or whatever other nasty things I think of.

 

Chastity Cage

My husband wears a chastity device most of the time so I know he isn’t being a bad boy behind my back. We own three, the CB2000, the Chastity Tube and the Access Denied. I change them up for variety but he seems to be the most comfortable in the Access Denied. The CB2000 is best when traveling. Is it hard on him being frustrated and denied? You bet it is and I love it. What fun would it be for me if he loved being denied? It does make him more submissive toward me, so he loves that aspect of it but no man really enjoys being teased and denied all of the time. Well, mentally they do but sexually and physically they don’t. His discomfort and frustration add to my sexual excitement and sexual fulfillment.

Cuckold process

Who do I cuckold my husband with? This is the most important part of the entire cuckolding process. Basically, I cuckold my husband with a man that I am very attracted to and one that I know my husband will be jealous of. What fun is there in cuckolding your husband with a man that he approves of? He has no right to question my choices and he must accept and yield to my choices. Who is the liberated wife? Who is the Dom here? Therefore my husband has no say or input on whom I date. If he doesn’t struggle with at least a little jealousy and envy then he will not be humiliated and thus he will not slip into subspace. I want him to choose submission over his jealousy but I have to present the choice before he can choose.

I like to date young and good-looking men. I want my husband to feel threatened. I want him to double and triple his efforts in serving me and in making sure I am happy and the better looking my date, the more threatened my husband becomes and the more eager he is to please me. I told my husband at the start of all this that I would never leave him for another man and I meant that. There is not a man alive that I would rather be married to than my husband but I am not unaccustomed to using my husband’s insecurities to get him to become a better servant and submissive. I still tell him that I love him and I will never leave him but then there are times that I will tease him mercilessly about how much better my lover is in bed than he ever was.

With that said, I look for a man that I am attracted to and sexually aroused by. I have never cuckolded my husband with a borderline man. I have always cuckolded my husband with a man that I found very sexy and a man that I wanted. I want a man that is younger than my husband, more muscular than my husband and if at all possible, better hung than my husband. If you are going to cuckold your husband, why do it with a little man with a puny cock? Do it with a stud with a stud’s cock. Do it with a man that you want to fuck.

Where do I find my lovers? Let me begin by saying where I don’t find them. Never date a man from work. Never pick a man up in a bar. Never date one of your husband’s friends or co-workers. Never pretend that you are single when talking with a man. Always be honest about your marital status.

 

Lovers Selection

The majority of the men that I have found in recent years have been through my FemDom support group and Slave Selection. I have also a personal ad on sugar baby and I get many replies from very wealthy men but if the man doesn’t follow my direction in the ad, I don’t answer him. I want a picture and he has to be submissive who believes in female domination. When I answer an ad, I ask very direct and personal questions and I pull no punches. I say upfront that I am happily married but that I am looking for a lover. I want him to be submissive but not passive. I want my husband to be passive, not my lover. I ask the man to give me his correct name, age, birth date, occupation, height, weight, build, and penis size measured from the top of the shaft to the tip of the penis, and sexual history. I have found two very good lovers through Slave Selection but you must be extremely patient and you must have a thorough screening process.

The best way I have found lovers is through the FemDom group I help run. We are a small group of only five couples and I have no intention of growing. If one couple leaves, I add one couple to replace them. We started out with the intention of building a large support group but it has become a great ground for meeting and 

screening single submissive men

. I have an obscure web site that can be only found through Slave Selection and one other contact service. On my site, I talk about our group and how we are looking for a very few select single men to join in order to serve us, Superior Females. I get quite a number of inquiries and I again make them go through my screening process before I invite them to a group function. I ask the same questions as above but I omit the questions about his penis size and sexual history. I definitely require a photo. If the man peaks my interest, I arrange a phone call. If he still peaks my interest, I invite him to a play party. There, I will get to examine his body as well as his personality. I have found the majority of my dates and lovers through our support group. The average party consists of us five couples and a select few single submissive men.

How do I keep the same single submissive men from coming to every party? I let them know upfront that because we are a small group with limited space and because so many singles want to attend, they will only be invited to one initial party. Once a year we throw a big fetish bash at a very large commercial dungeon and I will invite all the selected men to that annual bash but not to another monthly party. Unless there is a single man that I or one of the other wives are interested in dating. Then the interested wife will call the man up and ask him on a date. If he becomes a lover to one of the wives, he is of course invited to the monthly parties. The key to my success rate is the screening process. I weed out most men before they ever get an invite to one of our parties.

How long do I date one of my lovers? Pretty much until I tire of him. I make sure the man I date knows upfront that this relationship will only be for a season because I am a married woman. I am honest with the man. I tell him that I find him sexy and attractive but that my goal is to use him for my own selfish pleasure. If he is a submissive man, this kind of bold talk usually excites him. I have dated men for as short as two dates and I have dated men for as long as two years. My best cuckold ever lasted for two entire years.

Is it hard to end the relationship with the lover? No, not most of the time. Usually, the lover decides to move on before I do because he decides that he wants a full-time relationship after he meets a single woman who can offer him a little more than I can. I like that the best because I hate to break it off with a man that becomes overly attached to me. Unfortunately, that has happened a number of times and I never get used to doing it but it is a part of the process. A man usually knows that I am about ready to move on when I start encouraging him to date other single women.

Have I ever been hurt? Yes, the man I dated for two years became my best friend other than my husband and I became more attached to him than I had planned. I broke some of my steadfast rules with him, like taking vacations with him and allowing him to live with us for a few months. Both of those are bad ideas. The live-in boyfriend is the fastest path to trouble. Three is definitely a crowd under one roof. The friction between him and my husband made me kick my boyfriend out and he never forgave me for that, so he ended the relationship. It hurt, but it was the correct thing to do. I had some great sex with that one and lots of pleasant memories. The great thing about being married is that your husband is there to cuddle with and to comfort you after a break-up. You are not alone and that makes it easy to get over it. However, the best advice is to keep your wits and do your best not to get too emotionally involved with your lovers. That is easier for some women to do than for others.

Do I have sex with all of the men I date? No, but that is the goal. I only date a man that I hope to take to bed with me. I rarely have sex with a man on my first date and there have been men that I was outwardly attracted to but after a couple of dates, I changed my mind. The great thing about being married is that it gives you an easy out for when you want to break things off after a few dates. You just say that you can’t go through with it because of your husband. It always works like a charm.

Do I always have a boyfriend? No, but I am usually looking. Sometimes I want a break and I have gone as long as a year without having a boyfriend or lover. In the fifteen years that I have been doing this, I would say that I have dated about fifteen men and about ten of those have been my lovers. So I have had many in-between times with no boyfriend. I always tease my husband that I have dated more men and slept with more men since I have been married, then when I was single. Just another great thought to humiliate him with.

 

typical cuckold date

Now let me describe a typical date and a typical cuckold. Most husbands enjoy getting his wife ready for her dates and mine is no exception. That is so great for humiliating the husband and taking him to subspace. Without the pre-date activities, it would be much tougher on the husband. My pre-date routines vary. I might allow him to bathe me if we have the time but regardless, he will assist me in picking out my outfit and he will help to dress me. I add lots of humiliating comments and sling some verbal abuse on him about how excited I am about my date with my young stud. I will allow him to kiss and worship my body as he is dressing me. After I am dressed, I will allow him to worship my feet and stocking covered legs. I will always make him confess to me my right to date other men and he must always wish me a good time.

If my date picks me up at my house, I do not allow him to enter the house before the date. I don’t want these men making eye contact. I have my date honk his car horn and I go outside to meet him. If you have nosey neighbors, it may be best to meet your date at a predetermined location. I usually give my husband some chores or errands to run while I am on my date. That adds to his humiliation and it also keeps his mind occupied. I usually make a few calls to my husband on my cell phone during my date and I take the opportunity to humiliate him by telling him what a marvelous time I am having and what a great conversationalist my date is. I might even tease how my date can’t seem to keep his hands off of me. Some women prefer to put their husbands in bondage before they leave for their date so their husbands have to lay helpless to dwell on the fact that his wife is on a date with another man. That is a great thing to do the first few times but eventually, I think the chores are better. I guess it depends on your husband’s submissive nature and what has the best chance of keeping him in subspace.

I always inform my husband of the time I expect to be returning home. If I am going to be late, I will call to let him know. If I feel that I want sex from my date, I will make him remain in the car when he drives me home so I can prepare for my husband. I will go to the house and order my husband to get in a submissive position and then I will inform him of my desire to take my date to bed with me. What I do with my husband depends on my mood. If it is the first or second time I have had sex with this man, I will usually take my husband to his bedroom and tie him to his bed. 

I may place a butt plug in him

. He always has his chastity device on when I am on a date or cuckolding him. I will leave his door open so he can hear everything. I know some women have elaborate setups where they pipe the sounds from their bedroom into their dungeon or husband’s bedroom but I just leave the doors open. After my husband is secure, I will motion for my date to come in. We may have some snacks or drinks but usually, we get right into it. I am always Dominant with my date but I give him some liberties. My husband must lay in his bed and listen to us having wild sex.

Once we are done, I see my lover to the door and he leaves. If I have the energy, I will go to my husband and I will dominate him and humiliate him. I will tease him about what a great lover my date was and what a big cock he had and such things. I almost always make my husband clean me out with his tongue and I’ll make him worship my body. I may also whip him or even use my strap-on while I humiliate him.

After a few dates with my new lover, I may make my husband be present in the bedroom or playroom with us. I may tie him up and make him watch. If I do this, I forbid my husband to speak and I forbid my lover to make eye contact with my husband. My husband must watch another man fuck me and he must feel the shame and humiliation. I will usually make lots of eye contact with my husband while this is going on and I will usually say humiliating things to him. Of course, I will make my moans as loud as I can for the added effect.

 

There have been times when I will make my husband assist. I may make him suck my nipples while my lover is licking my pussy. This is rare and only after my husband has proven that he can sit quietly and watch us a few times before I allow him to assist in pleasuring me. I never allow the two men to touch each other. My husband has no homosexual desires and I think it would be going too far to make him do this. I know of some women that do, but I don’t. One of the women in my group will actually make her husband suck her lover’s cock to warm him up before he fucks her. To each his own I guess. I think that would send my husband into the crazy house, so you need to know your husband and decide what is acceptable. I had a lover that actually asked me if he could have sex with my husband. I denied his request to my lover’s disappointment and my husband’s relief.

I have had sex back at my boyfriend’s house as well. In these cases, I will call my husband on the phone and tell him what I am about to do. I have even made him listen over my phone while my boyfriend and I had sex. But most of the time I fill my husband in on the details when I get home and begin to tease him about it.

How often do I date? If I am in a relationship with a man, it is usually once a week. That keeps it distant enough so I don’t become too attached and it gives me something to look forward to each week. I do not spend lots of time talking on the phone during the week with my boyfriend. I prefer to keep things to once a week. I have a career and a husband to tend to. The boyfriend is for my pleasure. Two full-time relationships are too time-consuming. I did it once and I will never do it again and I do not recommend it. I date to have fun, to have great sex and to express my female liberation. I am not looking for another long-term relationship. One is enough.

What are some of the highlights these past fifteen years? When I was forty-two, I dated a twenty-one-year-old stud that had a ten-inch cock. My husband was very jealous and it was the most humiliated that I had ever seen him. I dated this kid for six months because of his cock. I had nothing in common with him and I didn’t enjoy his company after the second date, but you can’t pass up a cute boy with a ten-inch cock. Don’t get angry with me but I actually sucked it a few times. It is the only one I have sucked in the past seventeen years but I had to make my husband watch me do it. And yes, I enjoyed myself.

I dated a black man that was built like a brick shit house and he had an eight-inch cock. The extra racial dimension also made my husband very jealous and humiliated. I only went out with him four times and had sex with him all four dates. I found out that he had other girlfriends and I ended it out of fear for my health. I have my rules and if a man does not follow them, then hit the road, Jack. By the way, if you use the Internet do not give your last name. You have the upper hand as the female so you must require their full name but never give them yours until you are certain that he is a keeper.

My husband and I went on a vacation one time and I ran into a man that I went to high school with. I was very attracted to him so I invited him to dinner with us. I flirted with him all night in front of my husband and later sent my husband to our room. I told my former classmate about my arrangement with my husband and I had the only one nightstand of my life. Oh, I forgot to include that one so that makes eleven men I have had sex with these past fifteen years.

I have experimented with bi-sexuality, as on two separate occasions I have had sex with another woman. I recommend it to every woman at least once. It is very erotic if you do it with the right woman. However, I think my husband enjoyed watching us a little too much.

Are my husband and I closer today than before the cuckolding? Yes, we are but it is a different intimacy. We have bonded on a higher D&s plain as I pretty much control his entire being. He is much more submissive today than he was before we started this lifestyle and I am more dominant. I will be honest and confess that I only see him as my husband to satisfy my female supremacist beliefs. He has to be my husband to stand in proxy for all husbands so I can control him and dominate him as a husband. But the truth is that our relationship is more of a Mistress and slave than the Wife and husband relationship of seventeen years ago. He does what I say and I do what I say. He still is allowed to orally please me on occasions and that combined with the D&S play, keeps us intimate on a special level. No other man enjoys that kind of special relationship with me.

In closing:

 Cuckolding is not for every FemDom couple. I agree with her how the Dominant Wife falls into one of three categories. But if you fall into that last category and you hunger to totally control your husband, then cuckolding is the way to go. If you love to humiliate your husband and if you love to express your liberation, dating other men or even other women is the way to go. Just be sure to include your hubby in all that you do and have fun with it.

Femdom chastity games

In the context of BDSM, a chastity device is any instrument or tool – although typically one designed exclusively for the job – that restricts access to an individual’s genital region. Although there are a number of female chastity devices, for the purposes of this text and how it relates to the content on this website, we will focus more on the concept of male chastity. It should also be noted that male chastity is much more common and prevalent than female chastity.

Male Chastity Dating

 

Chastity devices are often administered by a dominatrix, typically in a teasing and abusive way, to the genital region of their male slave. Most chastity devices are a block of hard plastic that wraps around the penis itself and encases it with a locked element, meaning that only the person with the key is able to open it up. This can be particularly demoralizing and suggestive of submission for a man, seeing as it might imply he will never be able to touch himself or have sex again. Incidentally, the application of the device is both to deter masturbation and penetration – some devices allow for an erection to occur, whereas others will heavily limit the amount of free space that is available for the penis to expand.

The purpose of a chastity device is to control the sexual habits and experiences of the person that is locked up. Some men might be accused of perverted behaviors, including excessive masturbation or attempting to have sex with multiple women. Chastity devices can then be used by a dominatrix to restrict this activity, as both the physical presence of the device prevents them from doing it and even if the sexual contact was possible in a non-penetrative sense, it would be heavily discouraged owing to the potential of someone finding out about the chastity device.

The concept of being locked up for an extended period of time is also appealing to appliers of chastity devices and those that wear them. Because the key is kept in control of the dominatrix, she can decide when it is allowed to come off and orgasm is allowed to be experienced. It should be noted that while the implication of never being allowed out is sexually appealing to a lot of men during a scene, most dominatrices will allow for their chastised slaves to experience an orgasm every once in a while. Chastity in and of itself should not be eternal; otherwise, the teasing and waiting aspect serve no purpose other than to frustrate the individual. Orgasms after being locked up for extended periods of time are often reported to be much stronger and enjoyable when compared to their normal forms. For this reason, chastity presents itself as a potentially attractive opportunity to experience a better orgasm.

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