I live a cockold lifestyle and am completely dedicated to serving my Mistress. Today, I woke up an hour before my Mistress as expected to start preparing her breakfast. As I was preparing her breakfast I dropped a plate in the kitchen and scurried to clean up the mess scared she would wake up and see that I’ve been a bad boy. Thankfully, she didn’t wake up from the noise and came down at her normal time.
She was greeted with her favorite omelet, some toast, orange juice, and the newspaper. I proceeded with licking her feet and thanking her for granting me the privilege of her presence. Out of nowhere she yells at me to get naked and spanked me for not having a plate for her friend that was on his way. I had no idea this friend was coming and immediately started to make her friend a plate praying I could have it prepared before he got there. I feel very lucky that I live a cockold lifestyle and I am able to serve my Mistress’s friends too.....
Through the earlier posts we've learned whether you are BDSM, what role or roles we might enjoy and how to stay safe when exploring BDSM play. So it makes sense that you now want to know how to find someone to experiment with and maybe have a relationship with!
No matter what sort of person you are looking for, playing the dating game is difficult. Some of you have dated before or been in relationships where you know this to be the case. It's a lot of work. Your ideal partner isn't just going to fall out of the sky! (Although, I really wish it were that easy.) It is an even more difficult task to find someone who is into similar BDSM or D/s activities as you - especially since it's not something you share openly.
It's hidden and secret. And the people who are looking for you? Don't know how to find you either.
Casual Playmates
Let's say you want to explore a playful, perhaps sexual relationship with D/s or BDSM aspects to it. So, you are looking for a casual playmate. These sorts of relationships can be anything from a trusted person within the community that you play with at public parties, or someone that's a Friend with Benefits and you play in private.
It can also be anything that neither of you are looking for long-term right now.
Looking for partners in this situation might be easiest on casual dating sites. Make sure you remember your safety tips and don't meet someone somewhere private until you've felt safe with them in public and have safecalls, safewords and other safety measures in place. Trust is built over time, and until then you should have emergency lines.
Another avenue for casual play partners is the local and not so local BDSM community. If you are a part of the community you can find people to play with and that the leaders of the community trust or that have a good reputation. A lot of play happens between strangers at a play party, so even if you don't attend regularly, try to get to the parties to meet people. Regional and National events are also good places to meet people and possibly hook up.
Long Term Relationships
A lot of what I covered with casual relationships can apply to long-term ones too. People looking for lasting, lifetime relationships mingle in the same places as casual players. So don't forget to go where the people are that have common interests.
In this age of online dating, the dating site like Slave Selection is a place you will find people with FEMDOM BDSM or D/s interest. It may not be quite so obvious and you will probably have to weed through more people who quite obviously don't fit into what you are looking for but it is still possible to find someone who you connect with on all levels and make that lifetime commitment.
Since what we do behind closed doors is generally not talked about in casual conversation, don't be surprised when the man you met at the garage sale or the lady sitting next to you at church that you asked out on a date turns out to have some kinky interest. People interested in BDSM are everywhere. It will probably require you to be a bit more open with people as you date and explore relationships as to what you are looking for but it isn't an impossible feat. The world is full of people with happy, healthy BDSM and D/s relationships.
“What. No-no.” “Please explain then, if you like to proceed with the sensual domination session. You see, I can’t be doing this unless I am sure you have strong feelings for me, and that you could commit yourself to me.” “I do have strong feelings for you. I have always been very attracted to you, but I have forced it back because of the workplace. I’m so confused. I’ve never been with a woman like you before.” “Maybe that’s your problem.” “Maybe it is.” “So do you like me, maybe even attracted to me. Is that all?” “No, I just now realize that you are so much more.” “What do you mean? I need to know exactly how you feel before I can continue with the sensual domination session. Say it out loud.”
“What do you mean? I’m just starting to figure things out. What do you want me to say?” “Convince me that you really want me.” “I do, what more can I say?” “Use your imagination, but more importantly, be sincere.” “Marie, I really really want you. Not just now, but going forward in my life.” “Not too bad, but I think you can do better. And I deserve much better. Maybe I have to help you along. Repeat after me, but only if this is what you really want: I, Matt, am totally attracted to you. There is nothing I would not do for you.” Matt got a empty look on his face. I was wondering what he was thinking. He opened his mouth to say something, but nothing came out. This happened again, and again, and at the fourth try Matt finally spoke.
“I, Matt am totally attractive to you and there is nothing I wouldn’t do for you“. “Now, that was better.” I stepped over and embraced him. I leaned in some more and kissed him. Our lips met and soon our tongues were dancing together. After a little while, I pulled back to catch some air.
“Wow, how about that? Any regrets?” “No, none whatsoever.” “Great, I was hoping you would feel that.” “So, where are we going from here?”
Wednesday began just like another day, I woke up earlier then Mistress Ashley. Got Mistress’s bath ready and then went back to her bedroom and knocked on the door asking if she was ready for her bath. Mistress Ashley called out, “You may enter.” I walked in and Mistress Ashley told me to roll down her covers. I extended my hand to help her out. Mistress tells me to follow her into the bathroom, instructing me to remove her nightgown and panties. Mistress then steps into the bath and tells me to wash her clean.
She then tells me to go in the bedroom and lay out her business suit with the short skirt since today is hump day. I return to the bathroom to dry Mistress off and apply her body lotion. “Doesn’t this lotion smell pretty. Maybe if you are a good pet I might let you use a little bit of the lotion,” she says. We move into the bedroom and I dress Mistress Ashley for her day and Mistress Ashley gives me my chores for the day.
Mistress Brings A Few Guests Home
Mistress left for work and I start on her laundry making sure I take extra care of her panties. The phone rings and it is Mistress Ashley telling me she is bringing home a couple of guests for dinner. She requested I prepare dinner with the menu she gives me. I begin to prepare the dinner and setting the table. Mistress Ashley texts me to let me know she will be arriving soon. Oh no I lost track of time and did not cleanup! I must be at the door to greet her guests on time and ready to serve them. Suddenly, I hear the sound of Mistress’s car arriving. I open the door and notice Mistress Ashley is not happy with as I try to apologize. Mistress Ashley tells me that we will deal with this later, and then introduces her two male guess.
