Femdom chastity games

In the context of BDSM, a chastity device is any instrument or tool – although typically one designed exclusively for the job – that restricts access to an individual’s genital region. Although there are a number of female chastity devices, for the purposes of this text and how it relates to the content on this website, we will focus more on the concept of male chastity. It should also be noted that male chastity is much more common and prevalent than female chastity.

Male Chastity Dating

 

Chastity devices are often administered by a dominatrix, typically in a teasing and abusive way, to the genital region of their male slave. Most chastity devices are a block of hard plastic that wraps around the penis itself and encases it with a locked element, meaning that only the person with the key is able to open it up. This can be particularly demoralizing and suggestive of submission for a man, seeing as it might imply he will never be able to touch himself or have sex again. Incidentally, the application of the device is both to deter masturbation and penetration – some devices allow for an erection to occur, whereas others will heavily limit the amount of free space that is available for the penis to expand.

The purpose of a chastity device is to control the sexual habits and experiences of the person that is locked up. Some men might be accused of perverted behaviors, including excessive masturbation or attempting to have sex with multiple women. Chastity devices can then be used by a dominatrix to restrict this activity, as both the physical presence of the device prevents them from doing it and even if the sexual contact was possible in a non-penetrative sense, it would be heavily discouraged owing to the potential of someone finding out about the chastity device.

The concept of being locked up for an extended period of time is also appealing to appliers of chastity devices and those that wear them. Because the key is kept in control of the dominatrix, she can decide when it is allowed to come off and orgasm is allowed to be experienced. It should be noted that while the implication of never being allowed out is sexually appealing to a lot of men during a scene, most dominatrices will allow for their chastised slaves to experience an orgasm every once in a while. Chastity in and of itself should not be eternal; otherwise, the teasing and waiting aspect serve no purpose other than to frustrate the individual. Orgasms after being locked up for extended periods of time are often reported to be much stronger and enjoyable when compared to their normal forms. For this reason, chastity presents itself as a potentially attractive opportunity to experience a better orgasm.

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PANTY DRAWER

Jessica was sick and tired of her boytoy’s constant texting and whining. What had started out as sexy playtime and a welcome distraction from her hectic life, had quickly spiraled into an annoying needy “relationship“. She needed to put an end to it, and she knew exactly how.

She had met him at the car wash, wearing her usual head to toe black ensemble, a fitted clingy catsuit, with a leather jacket and black high heeled booties. With her omnipresent dark sunglasses, and hair pulled back into a neat ponytail, she looked all business. Working on her iPad while waiting for her black Mercedes to be detailed, she glanced up and couldn’t help but notice the hot piece of ass as he walked past her to sit down in an adjacent chair. She eyed him up and down from behind her dark lenses, taking in his young fit body, nice hands, and tousled mop of hair. She exhaled and shifted in her seat to turn towards him. “Excuse me, but I was wondering how you like that car? I’m considering getting one for weekends.” She pointed to his sports car with a lacquered nail, as she lowered her sunglasses to give him a piercing stare with her crystal blue eyes. He smiled nervously and started rattling on about the car with nervous abandon. She just slid her sunglasses back up over her eyes and slipped a card with her number into the palm of his hand. With that, she got up and made her way towards her car, slipped into the black leather interior, vanishing as the tinted window rolled up. He blushed as he stared at the card. It was shiny black with an elegant red font which simply read, “Truth or Dare”, with a phone number below.

Of course, he texted within the hour. He didn’t know what to write, but he couldn’t let this opportunity pass him by. “Hi, it’s Stephen from the carwash.” No reply. He checked his phone incessantly for the next few hours. As he sat at his apartment eating a slice of pizza while watching Game of Thrones, he heard the ping. Then another text coming through. He eagerly opened the text from Jessica, and smiled, “Tonite. Midnight. Meet?” “Yeah”, was all he wrote back. She texted the address of a hotel lounge downtown. He completely forgot about Game of Thrones and got up to go get ready. His roommate laughed and asked him what the hell was so urgent. Stephen only smiled and said, “It’s urgent for sure, dude.”

The Uber car dropped him off in front of the grand old hotel right at midnight. He pushed his hair off of his face, took a deep breath and headed through the entrance towards the vast dimly lit lobby. Plush velvet furniture filled the room, and Persian carpets lined the floor. Across the room, he saw her. Seated on a sofa, in a fitted short black dress, her long legs encased in black sheer nylons, she crossed and uncrossed her legs. He noticed the sky-high patent pumps gleaming. She saw him, and her eyes drew him across the room to her side. He inhaled her sensual fragrance, as she reached down to grip his strong thigh with a firm hand, her long flawless nails digging into his leg. He felt his cock get hard immediately. She slid her hand across his thigh, and up between his legs. “I like this”, she smiled, gripping his balls and shaft. He blushed again. This woman was too much, he thought to himself. The waiter came over with a bottle of champagne and two glasses.

They sat drinking the champagne, making small talk. She leaned over and whispered in his ear, “I need a distraction, nothing else. Got it? No drama. Just sex, when I want it, how I want it, and that’s it. Got it?” She stared hard into his eyes, and he was under her spell. She took his hand and pulled him close. “Let’s go up to the room now. I want you to show me what you’ve got.”

As soon as the elevator door closed, he pressed her against the wall, and slid her short dress up over her firm hips, gripping her ass and feverishly kissing her lips, neck, and shoulders. She moaned with pleasure and anticipation. Pushing him away, she told him, “Patience. No rushing.” The door opened, and she led him down the hall towards the room. It was much more than a room. The luxurious suite had a spectacular view and a full bar. She pulled him down the hallway into a vast bedroom, with a massive bed. She playfully pushed him so that he fell onto his back on the bed, Then she climbed on top of him. straddling him, her dress slipping up around her waist. The was wearing thigh high stockings with garters holding them up. And, he noticed, no panties. Her perfectly plump pussy glistened, teasing him. His cock was throbbing with excitement. “You know, I hate wearing panties. So restricting”, she laughed, slipping her hair out of the ponytail, so it fell over him. He grabbed her waist, and she leaned down to stroke his cock. “You better fuck me well, and I want you to go all night.” With that, she pulled her dress over her head and gripping his cock, slid it between her legs and started to ride him, with only her stockings, garter and high heels on. His pants were still around his ankles. She gripped his strong shoulders as she moved her hips up and down and began grinding and moaning with pleasure. She leaned over and whispered into his ear. “This is just a test”. They fucked all night. She pulled him out of the bed and told him she wanted him to fuck her in the bathroom so she could watch in the full-length mirror. The went into the shower, and he pressed her against the wall as the warm water cascaded over their bodies. She watched in the mirror as his long hard cock slid in and out of her pussy. She pushed him down to the floor, making him eat her out until she came over and over, crying out with ecstasy He performed like a machine, and she was pleased.

There were many more nights like this, and impromptu daytime meetings as well. She would text him and he would come running. She couldn’t recall when things changed, but she had not texted him for a few days, and suddenly she got a message from him, “where are you?”, followed by, “I miss you.” She cringed. She thought the rules had been clear, but obviously, someone had gotten attached.

The neediness progressed, and as it did, she knew it was time to end this situation. She knew just what she would have to do. “Come meet me at my place, 8 pm, tomorrow.” He responded immediately, “Can’t wait!” I bet, she thought to herself, rolling her eyes. With that, she walked into her all-white boudoir and started sorting through her lingerie drawers. Silky slips, bras, and teddies were tossed on the bed. She dug deeper and pulled out a few pairs of panties. Pink silk, red, black lace. All these panties, that she never wore. What a shame. At least she would make use of them tonite.
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FEMALE DOMINATION IN ANCIENT TIMES AND THE PRESENT

Upon first entering the world of female domination, we are driven by tabooed instincts – so why are we surprised to discover that during ancient times, women were worshipped religiously? Were they worshipped as “sex objects”? On the contrary, women were worshipped through means and meanings. Perhaps a clue for Western civilization that is familiar, is the name: Kama Sutra, and few dare to read up on it. Having such a book on one’s coffee table… is equivalent to leaving a dildo on the bed except that Kama Sutra is not given the credit it deserves in Western society...

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how to find a BDSM partner?

Through the earlier posts we've learned whether you are BDSM, what role or roles we might enjoy and how to stay safe when exploring BDSM play. So it makes sense that you now want to know how to find someone to experiment with and maybe have a relationship with!

No matter what sort of person you are looking for, playing the dating game is difficult. Some of you have dated before or been in relationships where you know this to be the case. It's a lot of work. Your ideal partner isn't just going to fall out of the sky! (Although, I really wish it were that easy.) It is an even more difficult task to find someone who is into similar BDSM or D/s activities as you - especially since it's not something you share openly.

It's hidden and secret. And the people who are looking for you? Don't know how to find you either. Casual Playmates Let's say you want to explore a playful, perhaps sexual relationship with D/s or BDSM aspects to it. So, you are looking for a casual playmate. These sorts of relationships can be anything from a trusted person within the community that you play with at public parties, or someone that's a Friend with Benefits and you play in private.
It can also be anything that neither of you are looking for long-term right now. Looking for partners in this situation might be easiest on casual dating sites. Make sure you remember your safety tips and don't meet someone somewhere private until you've felt safe with them in public and have safecalls, safewords and other safety measures in place. Trust is built over time, and until then you should have emergency lines. Another avenue for casual play partners is the local and not so local BDSM community. If you are a part of the community you can find people to play with and that the leaders of the community trust or that have a good reputation. A lot of play happens between strangers at a play party, so even if you don't attend regularly, try to get to the parties to meet people. Regional and National events are also good places to meet people and possibly hook up.

 Long Term Relationships A lot of what I covered with casual relationships can apply to long-term ones too. People looking for lasting, lifetime relationships mingle in the same places as casual players. So don't forget to go where the people are that have common interests. In this age of online dating, the dating site like Slave Selection is a place you will find people with FEMDOM BDSM or D/s interest. It may not be quite so obvious and you will probably have to weed through more people who quite obviously don't fit into what you are looking for but it is still possible to find someone who you connect with on all levels and make that lifetime commitment.

 Since what we do behind closed doors is generally not talked about in casual conversation, don't be surprised when the man you met at the garage sale or the lady sitting next to you at church that you asked out on a date turns out to have some kinky interest. People interested in BDSM are everywhere. It will probably require you to be a bit more open with people as you date and explore relationships as to what you are looking for but it isn't an impossible feat. The world is full of people with happy, healthy BDSM and D/s relationships.

MY FIRST BDSM EXPERIENCE AS A SUBMISSIVE WITH A FEMDOM

I started by joining Slave Selection and wrote in my profile that I was looking for a BDSM Dominant Woman.

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“What. No-no.” “Please explain then, if you like to proceed with the sensual domination session. You see, I can’t be doing this unless I am sure you have strong feelings for me, and that you could commit yourself to me.” “I do have strong feelings for you. I have always been very attracted to you, but I have forced it back because of the workplace. I’m so confused. I’ve never been with a woman like you before.” “Maybe that’s your problem.” “Maybe it is.” “So do you like me, maybe even attracted to me. Is that all?” “No, I just now realize that you are so much more.” “What do you mean? I need to know exactly how you feel before I can continue with the sensual domination session. Say it out loud.”

“What do you mean? I’m just starting to figure things out. What do you want me to say?” “Convince me that you really want me.” “I do, what more can I say?” “Use your imagination, but more importantly, be sincere.” “Marie, I really really want you. Not just now, but going forward in my life.” “Not too bad, but I think you can do better. And I deserve much better. Maybe I have to help you along. Repeat after me, but only if this is what you really want: I, Matt, am totally attracted to you. There is nothing I would not do for you.” Matt got a empty look on his face. I was wondering what he was thinking. He opened his mouth to say something, but nothing came out. This happened again, and again, and at the fourth try Matt finally spoke.

“I, Matt am totally attractive to you and there is nothing I wouldn’t do for you“. “Now, that was better.” I stepped over and embraced him. I leaned in some more and kissed him. Our lips met and soon our tongues were dancing together. After a little while, I pulled back to catch some air.
“Wow, how about that? Any regrets?” “No, none whatsoever.” “Great, I was hoping you would feel that.” “So, where are we going from here?”

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Wife-Led Marriage, Female-Led Relationships and Loving Female Authority

We are a married couple who have discovered 10 years ago the key to maintain (or to reignite) passion in a marriage or committed relationship is for the man to worship the woman as his goddess and to submit to her authority.

We created http://slave-selection.com to help promote Wife-Led Marriage, Female-Led Relationships and Loving Female Authority. For us this FemDom dynamic applies  to any committed relationship.

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Why Every Woman Should Dominate Her Relationship

Female Supremacy

Sounds like a scary term for radical feminists who hate men. Nothing could be further from the truth according to Elise Sutton, the often debated and elusive firecracker of the BDSM world who teaches couples how to actively engage in a dynamic she calls- Female Led Relationships.

What is a female led relationship? It is a romantic relationship where both parties are NOT equal and men willingly admit their inferiority and defer to the woman’s will. They both enjoy this dynamic as she uses her intellect and feminine power to lead the relationship toward success. The woman should dominate her relationship if it is to become a relationship of pleasure and progress.

Elise Sutton offered me the opportunity to learn more about the unique relationship model she presents in her website Female Superiority.Com. ~ Te-Erika

How To Dominate Your Man 5


Do you believe all women have a dominant side to their personalities?

I view dominance, when it comes to relationships, as more of a mindset and an attitude than a
personality trait. We are what we think we are. I know a lot of women that are quiet, reserved
and rather laid-back who are the dominant partner in their marriage. So to me, dominance has
nothing to do with temperament but it has everything to do with attitude. Therefore, I believe
that any woman can assume the dominant role in her marriage or any personal relationship. And
furthermore, I believe women should be the dominant partner within male/female relationships.
Why? Because women are best equipped biologically and intellectually to be the head of the
household.

Over the centuries, society has mistaken the softness and the gentleness of women for weakness
and submission. Likewise, society has mistaken the aggressiveness and the macho ways of men
for strength. But by in large, men are only stronger physically. Women possess the real strength,
which is intellectually, emotionally, spiritually, and sexually. Unfortunately, most women do not
realize this due to being programmed by patriarchal institutions that teach women are the weaker
sex. However, we live in a day where knowledge abounds and studies have shown that women
are in fact biologically and intellectually superior to men.

In my book, “Female Domination” I devote an entire chapter to the superiority of women. I cite
academic research that demonstrates women are intellectually superior to men. For example, The
Scientific Assembly and Annual Meeting of the Radiological Society of North America did a
study that showed that while the male brain is, on average, approximately ten percent larger than
the female brain, women actually have a larger corpus callosum, 55.4 percent vs. 50.8 in men.
Men listen with only one side of their brains, while women use both. Thus women do better in
memory tests and women have better language and communication skills. Women have excelled
in the college classroom thus almost 60% of all college degrees have been earned by women
over the past decade.



Biologically, women have better senses (smell, touch, taste, and sight). Women tolerate pain the
best. Pound for pound, women are in fact stronger thus men are physically stronger only because
of their overall size advantage. Women have greater flexibility and endurance. Women, as a rule,
eat healthier. Girls mature faster than boys. Women are less susceptible to most diseases and
women live longer. The research is clear, men and women are not equal and women are not the
weaker sex.

I was out in front of this going back to the 1980’s when I first discussed how society is slowly
and methodically evolving from male dominance to female dominance, and it is very satisfying to see so many today reaching a similar conclusion. I have in my private collection over 500 articles written in the past ten years that talk about the superiority of women and how it’s becoming a woman’s world. Articles with such titles as: “The End of Men” (Atlantic Weekly), “It’s a Woman’s World, the phasing out of men” (National Review), and “The incredible shrinking Y (chromosome)” (New York Times).

Women have become the main decision makers within marriages as more and more women
are in charge of the checkbooks and the bank accounts. Women are becoming the main
breadwinners in many families, and even in families where the husband has a higher income it is
the wife who makes the financial decision.

I also believe women are sexually dominant by nature. Again, when I say “dominant” I do not necessarily mean aggressive. While more women are choosing to be more sexually aggressive with their male partners, some dominant women prefer to be sexually passive in bed with a man. Be that as it may, the woman who understands how males and females are sexually designed will be able to take control in the bedroom using her natural feminine power.

Men are often led by their lower heads and the smart woman is the woman who learns how to utilize the male sex drive to her advantage. Too many women become victims of the male sex drive instead of taking control of it via the power Nature has bestowed on the female gender. And then there is also the biology of the female orgasm vs. the male orgasm, which is a fascinating study itself. I often tease my husband that sex was designed for the woman’s pleasure, not the man’s pleasure, and the male orgasm can never measure up to the intensity and pleasure of a woman’s orgasm(s) once she comes into her sexual prime.

So all of these reasons are why the female should be the dominant partner. It really doesn’t
equate to aggressiveness, although the University of Michigan recently did a study that showed
that estrogen is more of a power fuel than testosterone.
Why is it beneficial for women to recognize these traits?

I believe a female-led relationship makes for a happy relationship. Too many people strive for a
50/50 relationship and then wonder why life is so stressful. A 50/50 relationship sounds good in
theory, after all we should all strive for equality. But 50/50 means there is no decision maker and
everything must be negotiated. That doesn’t work because at the end of day, someone must yield
their opinion and their wants to the other person’s opinion and wants. There must be a hierarchy
in any structure, be it a corporation, a business, the military, the government, the Church, you
name it, there always has to be authority, else there is chaos.

The female contains the attributes best fitted to be in authority within a marriage or a male/
female relationship. Women are the gender with the womb, the child-bearers, the life-givers, thus
the nurturers and the gender best able to see the big picture and make decisions for the collective
good. Women are by nature more kind-hearted. Combine this with the biological and intellectual

strengths of the female gender, and it is foolish for any woman to surrender control of her life
over to a man. 50/50 is better than male dominance but female dominance is best of all as it is
able to bring harmony to a relationship.
Why would a man want to be a part of a female led relationship?

In many ways, men are further along in their desire to be dominated by women than women are
in their desire to be the dominant gender. However, this common male desire usually has its
incubation in the sexual realm. I remember a survey from the 1990’s where the number one male
sexual fantasy was the fantasy to be sexually dominated by a woman. And this common male
desire correlates with the explosion of the profession of the Dominatrix that we saw in the 1990’s
and 2000’s. Men could not get their female partners to dominate them sexually, so they sought
out the professional Dominatrix. Back in 2005 I did research using nothing but the Internet and
I recorded over 10,000 women who had websites advertising their services for professional
domination. Think about that? And it all wasn’t just about sex. Many Dominatrices offered
physical domination, domestic domination, forced feminization, financial domination, sexual
domination, humiliation, and other forms of controlling a paying male client.

Why do so many men want to be dominated by women? As I wrote in my book, “Female
Domination”, based on my years of study, observation and participation, I have learned that
there are sexual and social reasons why men have submissive desires toward women. I have
discovered that a man’s core nature expresses itself first in the sexual realm through different
sexual desires. To the novice, a man that desires to be on the bottom during intercourse is normal
but a man who desires to be spanked or whipped by a woman is perverted. However, I have
come to understand that both of these fore mentioned desires stem from the same core desire.
It may be expressed differently but it is the same deep-rooted motivation. And what is that
motivation?

The common thread to all these sexual and submissive desires is the longing for loving female
authority. To me, that is the true definition of Female Domination. Female Domination is Loving
Female Authority. That is what most men are seeking from the female gender. All of these
specific fetishes or desires are the outward expressions of a man’s need and hunger for loving
female authority.

There is a natural born desire within most men that causes them to desire to be dominated by
a woman. I believe that males are born with this desire and I also believe that this desire is
enhanced through a male’s childhood experiences with his female authority figures. A male is
carried in the womb of a woman, he is birthed into this world by a woman, he is nurtured at
the breasts of a woman, he is disciplined by the loving hands of a woman, and he is loved and
comforted by a woman. The male gender learns early on that there is something special, almost
magical, about the female gender. She is different than he is. She is lovely, beautiful, caring, and
nurturing. In some men, this revelation only gets stronger as he matures. He realizes that being under the loving authority of a woman is what gives his life a peaceful and meaningful existence.

After puberty, the testosterone takes over and boys will be boys, thus aggression, violence and
the primitive hunting instinct is prevalent. However, there is always the female, the mysterious
female that calls out to males for civility, community and family. Men have tried to rule but for
a lot of them it is a most frustrating proposition. The inner male nature longs to be back under
female authority, and I believe that is what drives the desire for female domination within so
many of them.
How can a woman learn to become more dominant in her life?

Women are romantics at heart and most women contemplate love and romance from the time they enter adolescence. The patriarchal system has preyed upon and manipulated the female desire for romance by equating romance with marriage and equating marriage with male dominance and female submission. This family model became the societal model because of a flawed logic which reasons that since the female is the nurturer and the male is the hunter, the woman’s place must surely be in the home.

Much like a person who does not exercise a limb on their body, the inner dominance of the
female went limp from a lack of exertion and application. For centuries women bought into a
societal model that sounded good on the surface but was flawed because the female possessed
the inner nature that was designed to be in charge. Nature would not implant the responsibility of
the guarantors of life with the weaker sex. The hunters are not superior but rather they work for
the guarantors. Brawn can bully and intimidate but brawn works for brains. Being the protector,
the hunter, and the helpmate is a critical and vital role but only as it works in harmony with the
life-giver, the guarantor, the nurturer, and the one in authority, which is the female.

Nature is patient and Nature evolves as it corrects errors and strives for perfection. Society is
evolving and the male desire for loving female authority cannot be ignored or overcome. Now
the submissive nature of man is seducing and unleashing the previously dormant dominant
nature of woman. I believe the Genie is now out of her bottle, the flood gates have been opened
and there will be no turning back.

However, we live in a transition time and the woman who desires love and romance and who
was reared with the values of the patriarchal system will have a tough time understanding and
comprehending the concept of female domination. That is why it is important for the man who is
driven by his submissive nature to slowly seduce the woman’s dominant nature by demonstrating
the natural application of female domination through appealing to her need for love and
romance. After all, submission is really about servitude and worship, and servitude and worship,
when broken down, are about intimacy, adoration and romance.

So to answer your question, I would recommend the following tips if a woman wants to unleash
her dominance and attract a man that is open to a female led relationship:

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1) Self-image

A woman should begin to view herself as the dominant and superior female that she is. This means that a woman should never settle for any man that does not treat her like a Queen. Expect a man to worship you and revere you. Do not settle for macho males who think they are God’s gift to women. Seek out a man who wants to support you in your life goals, who is open to doing housework and chores for you and who realizes he is blessed to be in a relationship with you. He doesn’t have to be a soft male or a feminine male (unless that is what you want) but he must have that submissive heart.

There are more men out there that want to be submissive to women than you can imagine. Most do not express it publicly out of fear of being harassed by other men. But deep inside, they are attracted to bold, confident women who walk with a dominant demeanor. And how do you get that demeanor? It comes back to your attitude. Believe you are a dominant woman worthy of male submission and you will become a dominant woman. And how does one develop such a belief? You will become in life the books your read and the people you associate with. I had to learn this. I had to cut myself off from people who tore me down. And I had to be mindful of the kinds of books I read (and television shows that I watched). I read books that increase my self-image. Like right now, I am reading Suzanne Somers’ “The Sexy Years”. I am always trying to better myself.

2) Unleash your female sexual power

I know some feminists hate this advice but I really believe in it and it has done wonders for me and a lot of women I have counseled. How we look on the outside does reflect how we feel on the inside. Any woman of any age and any body type can radiate sexuality. In this day and age there are so many resources available to women. I am not a thin woman and I am no longer a young woman but when I go out, I dress and carry myself like the sexual woman I believe that I am. I have learned how to dress, which hair styles make me look younger, and which cosmetics work best for me. I eat right, I exercise and for a woman in my mid to late 50’s, I still like to believe I ooze dominance and sexuality. I love to wear leather clothing because a lot of submissive men have a real leather fetish. A pair of leather pants or a leather skirt can make me feel extra sexy and powerful. So I seek to dress sophisticated and sexy.

Remember the show “What not to wear”? I used to love that show because it would show any woman how she should dress to highlight her individual assets. I also sought out and found a salon where the women were knowledgeable and helpful. I wasn’t afraid to ask for advice when it came to my hair and cosmetics. I only use natural products but there are so many options out there. And as much as I love to eat, I became knowledgeable on that as well. I eat right and exercise because it makes me feel better about myself, and when I feel good about myself, I walk in that and others can sense it. I am bold and dominant as a woman and how I look on the outside lets the world know how I feel on the inside. My attitude attracts men who want to submit to me.

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3) Be willing to experiment with Dominance & Submission in the bedroom with your partner

One of the good things to come out of the “Fifty Shades of Grey” craze is that it introduced a lot of women to BDSM (or I prefer to call it D&S). I desire to be the dominant sex partner so I didn’t care for the book (I like to read erotica where women sexually dominate men).

However, the book did open women up to the concept of what some might call ‘kinky sex’. This is good because one reason so many relationships fail due to infidelity is because regular sex becomes boring after a while. People need new and exciting but you don’t necessarily need ‘someone’ new if you are willing to try ‘something’ new. I get lots of letters from couples who tell me that my books saved their marriage because they began to incorporate FemDom in the bedroom and sex became fresh and exciting again. My husband and I have practicing FemDom in the bedroom for decades. Yes, I actually wear fetish clothing (leather, boots, corsets, etc.) and I have paddles and whips and a strap-on harness and other ‘toys’. I discipline my husband and he worships my body and sex is never mundane or boring, even after all of these years.

However, what is great about D&S is that it is a wonderful way for a woman to explore and exert her dominance. As I mentioned, a lot of men discover their submissive desire initially via their sexuality. Being sexually dominated by a woman is still the number one fantasy of a lot of men. But what I have done is take what we do in the bedroom to enhance our lifestyle outside the bedroom. We have a discipline night where I might spank my husband but while I dominate him sexually I will also assign him his chores that I expect him to do over the course of the next week. It becomes a win/win scenario. He gets to be dominated in the bedroom and I get to reinforce my dominance outside the bedroom. Not to mention that I love what we do in the bedroom as much as he does, if not more, because our motto is “sex is for the woman’s pleasure”. Sex has become all about my pleasure and a man who learns how to focus on a woman’s pleasure is a man you always want to have around. So experimentation and D&S in the bedroom can be a very healthy and intimate practice.

My books “Female Domination” and “The FemDom Experience” give some wonderful suggestions in this area. Each couple is different which is why I cover a large gambit of sexual practices and activities in my books, some a little more wild than others, but again, each couple is different and must choose that which fits their own unique relationship and lifestyle. Above all, have fun with it.

Elise Sutton
Author
“Female Domination: An Exploration of the male desire for loving female authority”
“The FemDom Experience”
“Searching for Wanda”
www.elisesutton.com