In the context of BDSM, a chastity device is any instrument or tool – although typically one designed exclusively for the job – that restricts access to an individual’s genital region. Although there are a number of female chastity devices, for the purposes of this text and how it relates to the content on this website, we will focus more on the concept of male chastity. It should also be noted that male chastity is much more common and prevalent than female chastity.
1. Myth: BDSM is a freaky fringe thing most people aren’t into.
“There’s a lot of misunderstanding about how common this is,” Aaron says. “A lot of people may think just a small minority has these desires.” But sex experts see an interest in BDSM all the time, and a 2014 study in the Journal of Sexual Medicine also suggests it isn’t unusual. Over 65 percent of women polled fantasized about being dominated, 47 percent fantasized about dominating someone else, and 52 percent fantasized about being tied up.
2. Myth: BDSM is always about sex. Sex isn’t a necessary part of the action. “BDSM doesn’t have to be sexual in nature—some people like it for the power only,” Jones says. It’s possible to play around with BDSM without involving sex, but for some people, incorporating it into sex ratchets things way up.
3. Myth: You can spot a BDSM fan from a distance.
All sorts of people like BDSM, including those who seem straitlaced. For them, it can actually be especially appealing because it offers a chance to exercise different parts of their personalities. “Some of the most conservative-seeming individuals are into BDSM,” Jones says.
Upon first entering the world of female domination, we are driven by tabooed instincts – so why are we surprised to discover that during ancient times, women were worshipped religiously? Were they worshipped as “sex objects”? On the contrary, women were worshipped through means and meanings. Perhaps a clue for Western civilization that is familiar, is the name: Kama Sutra, and few dare to read up on it. Having such a book on one’s coffee table… is equivalent to leaving a dildo on the bed except that Kama Sutra is not given the credit it deserves in Western society...
What do you really need to dominate a man, besides a willing submale? This is a short piece about BDSM toys needed to do just that. Sure, it is possible to dominate your pussy slave without anything at all, but most people agree it’s more fun with ‘ BDSM toys’.
Some of you reading this article are toy mavens – the sort of women who have a storage locker full of every conceivable device that can subjugate a man and some of you ‘travel light’. That is to say, all your playthings fit in a shoe box with plenty of room to spare.
This is an opinion poll and requires your input – your participation – which you can do as a comment to the article. Just type in the device number of your 5 favorite subjugation devices. Below is a list of 30 bondage devices, ‘ BDSM toys’, equipment, and general paraphernalia which are commonly used to subdue a man’s mind and/or body. Bdsm Toys listing
This is a true event of serving a Dominant Woman I met on femdom.dating. I was instructed to come to Ms. Lucy’s apartment at 4:30 pm and not a second later. There I was to clean her apartment and serve her wine as she relaxed and read. I was very excited to see and obey Her, as it is my nature to obey and serve Dominant Women. I fantasized about worshipping and kissing Her feet as I was on the long drive from work to Her apartment.
As I was on my way driving, Ms. Lucy instructed me via text to bring Her a specific type of water in a certain size of containers only available at one store. She told me that She still expected me to be at Her apartment at 4:30 pm and there would be no excuses for being late. Quickly realized this would require me to quickly find the store and purchase the water; so I put the address in my phone to know where to go without wasting any time.
While parking I could feel myself getting excited as I was doing a task to please a superior Woman. My cock got hard as I ran through the parking lot and then through the store, I so needed to make sure I wouldn’t be late. Finally, I got the water and as excited as I was my cock started rubbing my pants while I was driving to Her. As I was getting closer to Her apartment, I received another text from Her instructing me to get $5 in quarters so I could do Her laundry. Again she reiterated that I could not be late for any reason...
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Through the earlier posts we've learned whether you are BDSM, what role or roles we might enjoy and how to stay safe when exploring BDSM play. So it makes sense that you now want to know how to find someone to experiment with and maybe have a relationship with!
No matter what sort of person you are looking for, playing the dating game is difficult. Some of you have dated before or been in relationships where you know this to be the case. It's a lot of work. Your ideal partner isn't just going to fall out of the sky! (Although, I really wish it were that easy.) It is an even more difficult task to find someone who is into similar BDSM or D/s activities as you - especially since it's not something you share openly.
It's hidden and secret. And the people who are looking for you? Don't know how to find you either.
Casual Playmates
Let's say you want to explore a playful, perhaps sexual relationship with D/s or BDSM aspects to it. So, you are looking for a casual playmate. These sorts of relationships can be anything from a trusted person within the community that you play with at public parties, or someone that's a Friend with Benefits and you play in private.
It can also be anything that neither of you are looking for long-term right now.
Looking for partners in this situation might be easiest on casual dating sites. Make sure you remember your safety tips and don't meet someone somewhere private until you've felt safe with them in public and have safecalls, safewords and other safety measures in place. Trust is built over time, and until then you should have emergency lines.
Another avenue for casual play partners is the local and not so local BDSM community. If you are a part of the community you can find people to play with and that the leaders of the community trust or that have a good reputation. A lot of play happens between strangers at a play party, so even if you don't attend regularly, try to get to the parties to meet people. Regional and National events are also good places to meet people and possibly hook up.
Long Term Relationships
A lot of what I covered with casual relationships can apply to long-term ones too. People looking for lasting, lifetime relationships mingle in the same places as casual players. So don't forget to go where the people are that have common interests.
In this age of online dating, the dating site like Slave Selection is a place you will find people with FEMDOM BDSM or D/s interest. It may not be quite so obvious and you will probably have to weed through more people who quite obviously don't fit into what you are looking for but it is still possible to find someone who you connect with on all levels and make that lifetime commitment.
Since what we do behind closed doors is generally not talked about in casual conversation, don't be surprised when the man you met at the garage sale or the lady sitting next to you at church that you asked out on a date turns out to have some kinky interest. People interested in BDSM are everywhere. It will probably require you to be a bit more open with people as you date and explore relationships as to what you are looking for but it isn't an impossible feat. The world is full of people with happy, healthy BDSM and D/s relationships.
Do you like wine boy? Yes Mistress I do, thank you for ordering it for me. She was staring at me knowing how unconfortable I was. After few minutes she said, why are you here? My first thought was to tell her because I need to know who I am, but instead I said because I need your help Mistress. Help for? I want to find out why I am so attracted to Dominant Women, why vanilla Women leave a feeling of emptyness inside of me. She said I can guide you boy but you will need to pay attention and be all ears so you can understand the world where Dominant people and submissive people need each other.
“What. No-no.” “Please explain then, if you like to proceed with the sensual domination session. You see, I can’t be doing this unless I am sure you have strong feelings for me, and that you could commit yourself to me.” “I do have strong feelings for you. I have always been very attracted to you, but I have forced it back because of the workplace. I’m so confused. I’ve never been with a woman like you before.” “Maybe that’s your problem.” “Maybe it is.” “So do you like me, maybe even attracted to me. Is that all?” “No, I just now realize that you are so much more.” “What do you mean? I need to know exactly how you feel before I can continue with the sensual domination session. Say it out loud.”
“What do you mean? I’m just starting to figure things out. What do you want me to say?” “Convince me that you really want me.” “I do, what more can I say?” “Use your imagination, but more importantly, be sincere.” “Marie, I really really want you. Not just now, but going forward in my life.” “Not too bad, but I think you can do better. And I deserve much better. Maybe I have to help you along. Repeat after me, but only if this is what you really want: I, Matt, am totally attracted to you. There is nothing I would not do for you.” Matt got a empty look on his face. I was wondering what he was thinking. He opened his mouth to say something, but nothing came out. This happened again, and again, and at the fourth try Matt finally spoke.
“I, Matt am totally attractive to you and there is nothing I wouldn’t do for you“. “Now, that was better.” I stepped over and embraced him. I leaned in some more and kissed him. Our lips met and soon our tongues were dancing together. After a little while, I pulled back to catch some air.
“Wow, how about that? Any regrets?” “No, none whatsoever.” “Great, I was hoping you would feel that.” “So, where are we going from here?”
Most men– even submissive men– have never begged. Never really begged. Not the way I will make you beg. From deep inside of yourself, where the words don’t have to be sought after, they come rushing out. Bursting out.
Hi girls only thing I can tell u that be a dom fem and enjoy ur life as a queen. I feel I am a queen only because I found my slave on femdom.dating.
well I dont know from where to start as i am not a story writer. I shall say some thing about me. Me a degree holder in nursing & works in NY. My mother, sis and me also domfem. But I didnt get an oppurtunity for the one in NY. I was jelous to my mom as she was like a queen and my dad a fetish slave. Me and my sis used to peep to moms room to see bondage in our childhood. We slept most of d day by hearing my dads cry and mom's laughter. She was verimuch satiesfied with her slave.so she gave me advice how to take control over men and the only formula is sex and pain.
I started dating on femdom.dating for a sub.I follwed her words with him. first i refused sex with them for about 2 weeks. then he started to beg for my sex. then i told him to do what ever i say and he agreed. on that time i made him as child who do everything for a toy. i orderd him to stripp off and to show his body close to me. he is so hot and his **** started to hard as a rock& my ***** was getting wet and wet, but i didnt showed dat in my face. I humiliated him by claiming his disqualities of his body. I started throwing utter bad words on him and he was red faced and finaly in an angry mood i slapped on his face hard. then he started to plede for for something. I asked him to dance and i started him harassing him again with words. he was keep on pleeding and i gave my foot lick and suck. during his sucking i was slapping and pinching him . I noticed that he was enjoying my each touch, so keep on suck my legs for hours....
